Who was the first person to don a set of tight stays in history? We don’t know, but many people credit Catherine de’ Medici in the 16th century for bringing the stays from Italy to France, where the fashion became wildly popular. Looking at journals, newspaper columns, and medical publications throughout history, there is an undeniable trend where the older generation of women would be the one to influence the girl to wear a corset - mothers laced their daughters; maids laced their ladies.
Meanwhile, fathers would be writing to newspapers and magazines, essentially shaking their heads at this process; young men who had grown up thinking that women’s bodies really were the shape of their stays and crinolines would become angry that women had gone to such great lengths to deceive men; pious men would preach about the sin of vanity; male doctors would teach about the dangers of wearing tight corsets and large, heavy hoopskirts.
The book Corsets and Crinolines by Norah Waugh has over 100 primary sources of opinions of stays and corsets in contemporary literature over the past 300 - 400 years, and it’s a bit amusing to read how many men were vocally against corsetry - certainly not forcing them upon women.